Thursday, October 13, 2011

Transforming Teams – How do you do that?

How to work together to ensure success – spend quality time together.
Build the Trust
Teams who don’t trust their leader will never succeed.
Teams who don’t trust each other will never succeed.
So what breaks trust?
§  Leaders who say one thing and do another
§  Leaders who gossip about their team to their team
§  Leaders who ‘set’ team member up against each other
§  Leaders who don’t give feed-back
§  Leaders who don’t give feed-forward
§  Leaders who don’t mentor or coach
§  Leaders who don’t acknowledge strengths
§  Leaders who don’t take responsibility
§  Leaders who don’t celebrate success
§  Leaders who don’t allow people to say what they need to say
§  Leaders who don’t encourage open debate
§  Leaders who don’t listen
§  Leaders who don’t include their team decisions
It’s the same in every relationship – we need to talk about ‘things’ that matter, talk about concerns, our fears, our workers.  We need to know and understand one another’s strengths, the support we need, talk about our challenges and share ideas.
There is no trust if there is no conflict management and there is no conflict management without trust.  People will not open up, share issues and concerns or challenge each other if there is no trust.
So the first thing to establish in your team/organisation’s relationship is trust.
How do you do that?
§  Share about yourself – be open
§  Laugh about yourself
§  Be interested in others
§  Take the time to get to know ‘who’ people really are and what motivates them
§  Take the time to get to know each other
§  Socialise and have fun as a team
§  Be a part of the team
§  Create a 'Shared Vision'
§  Focus
§  Bring the spirit of the team alive
§  Motivate and inspire
§  Include them – you can do this with your families too!!!
Everyone has to have the conversation – say what they need to say to the right person in the right way to understand.
Seek to understand.


Thursday, October 6, 2011

So David Cameron says Leadership is important...

I say it’s not just important it is absolutely vital to our survival. It is the only thing that will turn our country around… and the global economies.

I was also struck with the amazing self-leadership shown on the UK Pride of Britain awards last night. Amazing true examples of ordinary people doing the extraordinary. So how do they do that? What makes them different?

Well what we know (if we really listen to what they are saying) is that they never ever give up. They are determined, they accept what they cannot change (losing legs/blindness etc) and they focus on what they can do.

Take your life/career now and apply these 2 different sets of questions:

A              What are the problems/issues you have?
                What is wrong with your life/career right now?
                How long has it been this way?
                Whose fault is it/who is to blame?

B              What do you want?
                What is your vision of success?
                What resources do you have now to help you?
                What 5 actions are you going to take now?

Great self leaders don’t stay stuck in a problem, they don’t blame others and dwell on all the problems with society etc. They do something about it, they take action and they never give up.

Self-leadership is about you and it will be because of you, you succeed or fail.

So decide now and do something about changing what you want to change in your life/career today.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Impact is Critical

All great leaders have amazing impact – something about them exudes gravitas.  What is it that makes the difference?  What makes people want to work with them, be in their team and work in their organisation?
Impact is subjective, almost intangible at times – but we know when we have been in the presence of someone truly inspiring.
Impact is present both on the ‘outside and the inside of us’.  Leaders who have gravitas are authentic and have integrity are ‘at one’ with themselves.  So what is it when you break it all down?
Outside – what we see on the outside is a person who is at ease with themselves and others.  They connect immediately, they are interested in you, they seem to have an incredibly range of probing questions to ask that make you stop and think.  One question can change a mind set and they know that.  Their body language is congruent and energised.  You come away from them feeling inspired and motivated not drained and negative.  What do they do to be able to do that?  They connect directly with you at a values level, they cause you to think further ahead than now, they probe what you learned from the past .They seem to be able to help you see what you are great at and what you could develop – they give you so much without saying too much. They are interested in you.
They remember the small things about you.  They remember you had a holiday, they remember to ask how you are.  They have amazing new stories.
They are confident.  They know their strengths and they know how to use them to have the best effect.
They don’t try to be anyone else.
They know where their ‘gaps’ are, what they don’t do well and they are always open to learning.
They laugh at themselves – they are not defensive.
They know and understand the impact of their emotions; they welcome them and use them to inspire.  It’s ok to feel the fear.  It’s ok to feel the frustration.  It’s ok to be angry, as long as you are angry with the right person in the right way. That is an art and they have that art.
They pick up all the nuances and are flexible in their behaviour and are open to learn from you.
You are important to them!